mindfulness

I’m not sure if boredom and restlessness have ever been studied together but two of the first things I encountered when I started practicing mindfulness were boredom and restlessness and I always noticed them together. It was an interesting observation as I can’t say I noticed either very much before I started practicing. Since I noticed it in myself I have become aware of just how prevalent these two things are in people. With restlessness I have come to be able to read body language to the point where I notice all the little movements associated with it. The big one is the leg that constantly is moving up and down while sitting (restless leg syndrome). I become aware of someone’s boredom through conversation and noticing that they have a hard time focusing. We see a lot of boredom and restlessness with ADD and ADHD and we know how prevalent that is.
So where is this coming from? In the world of stress when we have a situation of being stuck in fight or flight and the stress hormones continue to rage unabated we have the phenomenon of getting addicted to our own adrenaline. This is very similar to any drug stimulant addiction but perhaps worse as most people don’t realize the connection and it becomes hard to address. Years of research have taught us the ramifications of being stuck in fight or flight on our adrenal glands. There is an enormous amount of stress on them and sometimes they just shut down. When that happens there is a domino effect and we are also deprived of the adrenaline that we get so used to. At that point we actually go into withdrawal and experience a host of symptoms, two of which are boredom and restlessness. The problem gets compounded when we try to reproduce the adrenaline with destructive behaviors and substances. It’s like an addict trying to get their fix so they can “relax”.
When we practice mindfulness we gradually come out of fight or flight and when we do there is a gradual decreasing of adrenaline and the other stress hormones. When that happens we can experience the same withdrawal that a drug addict experiences. Two of those experiences are restlessness and boredom. As the body normalizes through mindfulness practice and we slowly get used to not having our adrenaline fix the boredom and restlessness go away. This is exactly what I experienced when I was coming out of fight or flight through my mindfulness practice. It took awhile but eventually my restlessness and boredom disappeared. The restlessness was replaced by a sense of calm and stillness. A sense of curiosity, fun and adventure replaced the boredom.

Perhaps my first experience of mindfulness happened in sports. While growing up I couldn’t get enough of sports and would play 8 hours a day if I could. It didn’t matter what sport….whatever was in season was good enough for me. As I got older I focused more on tennis, baseball and basketball. As my skills deepened I started having what we call today “zone or flow” experiences from time to time. I would have laser focus and an ease of performance that was remarkable to me and it wasn’t until I started practicing mindfulness that I realized that what I was experiencing was in fact the present moment experience talked about by practitioners of mindfulness. Up until then I wasn’t able to duplicate my “zone/flow” experiences at will while playing sports but once I started practicing mindfulness I was able to sustain the flow consistently in sports and out of sports. We now know through countless studies of mindfulness and sports what exactly is going on in the mind/body connection while experiencing the peak performance/flow/zone. Athletes all over the world are incorporating mindfulness into their training regimen in order to give them an additional edge in competition. It is also starting to dawn on many of these athletes that if they could sustain the experience outside of sports it would greatly enhance their everyday lives.

Sports has become such a powerful metaphor for life nowadays that we are putting everything athletic under the microscope and trying to discover what makes an elite athlete tick. There are of course many things that make an elite athlete tick and many of those things are not accessible to everyone. What is accessible to everyone is the mind/body integration that produces the present moment experience…..the practice of mindfulness. There is a realization that all those peak qualities have a far reaching benefit that extends way beyond sports. It extends into every aspect of our lives. Qualities such as inner and outer teamwork (mind/body coordination) , enhanced focus, attention, intuition and reduced physical, emotional and mental stress are qualities that we can use everywhere and in every situation. So whether you are LeBron James looking to express your inner Bill Gates or Bill Gates looking to express your inner LeBron James there is now a path that allows you to meet in the middle. It is called mindfulness and it deposits you square into the present moment.

It is impossible to know precisely, but millions of people worldwide identify themselves with belief systems in which reincarnation plays a part. This includes over 300 million Buddhists, 800 million Hindus, at least one million adherents of New Age religions, and several million others, as well as many whose beliefs are held privately. Overall, it is reasonable to estimate that about a quarter of the world’s population believes in reincarnation in some form. That’s a lot of people! It’s also a lot of time, energy and attention used to figure out how it all fits into our present day lives. Other than mindfulness’ connection with other spiritual traditions that believe in reincarnation, I can’t find any specific references to how mindfulness relates to it so I will proceed to tell you what mindfulness has taught me in relationship to the concept of reincarnation. Firstly, I have come to learn that the past is always present. It is expressed in every little detail of our lives even though we may not be able to point to the exact connection. Since that is my reality then I would find the logic to connect it to everything in the past, even a hypothetical concept of reincarnation. If the past of this life is always present, then everything in the past is present too, including past lives. If we are interested in our past the best way to access it is by noticing the present moment, not necessarily to learn the specific details but to gain the understanding and the ability to integrate it all.

Secondly, the concept of interconnectedness, which is very real and palpable to me renders the whole idea of separate lives irrelevant….past or present. Empathy is the beginning stage of being able to share the experiences of others in a very real way and on many levels. As empathy matures and is joined by an ability to stay anchored in the present moment, there is an opening of ones ability to explore other’s experiences past or present without losing the center of oneself. In a sense it is perhaps the real definition of time travel. Since the past is always accessible to the present, once we have mastered the present we have mastered and gained access to the past and can explore it on many levels. That being said…it is far more important to me to simply attend to this present moment and explore everything as it is right now. The whole concept of the past has lost it’s appeal to me and my curiosity is centered in the present moment. So now that we have addressed the past and present, how about the future…..ahhh….a subject for another time…perhaps in the future……..

The current definition of mindfulness is the ability to pay attention moment by moment without judgment on purpose. This definition is the summary/end result of a number of processes that go on behind the scenes. Mindfulness has been the subject of over 1800 studies over the past 30 years and central to all of these studies is the importance of attention to the present moment. Through research and the experience of thousands of people over at least 2500 years we have come to realize that mindfulness is key to bringing our bodies/lives into balance. In a world suffering from an epidemic of ADD and ADHD it is particularly important to use mindfulness as a way of resolving this and many other issues.

Let’s take a look at the broader relationship of attention to who we are. I’m going to step out of the world of research and discuss what my personal experiences have been regarding this broader view. The world of experience used to be all we had until the scientific revolution. Science has been a valuable tool for many things and with the breakthroughs in quantum research it would not surprise me if we could eventually measure what has thought to have been unmeasurable.

To me, attention is the third process and perhaps the most critical in how we experience things and get things done. The sequence is: being, awareness, attention, creativity/imagination, intention, and action/expression. Most of as can agree that being is a given as a first principle although I understand there are some who are not sure that they even exist. These people notwithstanding, we would next get to pure awareness. After awareness would come the all important attention to the present moment. I see being as the ocean, awareness as a boat and attention as the rudder. We all know what happens to a boat in the ocean without a rudder. Apply that to your life and the realization of the importance of present moment attention becomes clear. The effectiveness of creativity/imagination, intention, and action/expression is directly related to the rudder of attention. Without that rudder it’s easy to see how the rest can go astray. The rudder of mindfulness is the element that creates the necessary symmetry to allow all these things to line up and flow naturally together with a sense of ease. When this happens there is cooperation with the energy that is everywhere and the expression of “being in the flow” comes to life.

As I begin to write this blog it occurs to me that writing about the connection between mindfulness, stillness and silence is counter intuitive to the subject. That realization stops me dead in my tracks and makes me wonder if I can convey this idea without violating it. In any event I suspect this will be one of my shorter blogs….or it should be.

When I first started practicing mindfulness I discovered physical and mental restlessness, and a mind that was constantly hearing sounds and thinking thoughts. My life was much the same way in that I lived in a constant whirl of activity. As I developed my mindfulness meditation practice I discovered that gradually I was experiencing less restlessness and a sense of quiet. There is an argument to be made that this new found stillness and silence would spill over into my life and in fact that is what I have noticed. The grand epiphany is that my outer life does not need to be still and silent in order for me to sustain the inner stillness and silence. They are the engines of focus and attention. I have come to experience that two basic qualities of the present moment are stillness and silence. They seem to be the at the core of our essential being. I would liken them to the blank canvas of a painter who has the opportunity to create anything on that canvas.

So silence and stillness are always there, the balm of existence that allows for the arising of all experience. I found this in the present moment and it continues to deepen day by day.

Mindfulness and Creativity. How does mindfulness create and sustain the creative process? The essence of the creative process is freedom. The opposite of freedom is fear (although many say the opposite of fear is love). That being said, perhaps there is a close relationship between freedom and love.

Throughout the ages people have described the feeling that comes with the creative process and it is generally one of being in the moment/flow of whatever activity you are involved in. There is a timeless and effortless sense that usually is experienced as well as a sense of positive energy and a feeling of satisfaction. This is of course the specific quality of present moment awareness and is the result of either a sustained training in mindfulness or having stumbled upon an activity/subject that allows you to enter the present moment as a particular doorway for you. We all have activities/subjects that put us into this experience but all too few of us can access this experience 24×7 which is the real effect of mindfulness practice.

For many, creativity comes as either a physical, mental, emotional or “spiritual” experience or a combination of some of these. For the mindfulness practitioner they are trained in engaging all 4 areas in the exercise of creativity so that it becomes a truly holistic experience. There is a sense of balance driving the creativity and is sustained by that balanced “chi” energy rather than the artificial, temporary adrenaline energy so many people become reliant upon and sustain with negative behaviors, eventually succumbing to it’s pressure over the long term.

There is limitless creativity available to everyone when you step into the present moment.

I find that most people come to meditation, whether it be mindfulness or some other form, to address concerns they have in life. That was certainly the case with me as I was struggling to overcome fears, depression and a whole litany of dysfunction while at the same time wanting to figure out how the universe worked. Regardless of the issues being addressed, whether physical, mental, emotional or spiritual a lot of attention and energy goes towards resolving the issues. Life becomes all consuming in the pursuit of figuring these things out and making peace with them. It seems for many of us that while we are pursuing these things there is a heaviness about our lives and the lightness of spirit and playfulness of heart takes a back seat. This can last a long time, even a lifetime, as this search wears on. Things become very serious….

One of the things I like about mindfulness versus other forms of inner practice is that in bringing us to the present moment it takes us away from the intense focus of our own inner world to something larger. It takes us outside our own bubble and allows us to merge our life with the life outside the bubble. In many cases it may seem like a tearing away of the obsession with the “little self” and an opening up of a much larger self which includes everything/body. It’s when that happens that we wake up to a much larger reality, one that is interesting, engaging and fun. I noticed with my own experience that when my practice started bringing me into the present moment and away from my inner struggles that I began to have a new perspective on life. I actually started to have fun again, something that had been missing for a long time. As I embraced the return of fun in my life it continued to deepen and expand. It was then that I realized that having fun was a big part of of my mindfulness practice and that I wanted to share that with others. It seemed to me that the more people in the sandbox, the more fun would be had. I also found that as the sense of fun returned, the other issues I was dealing with were resolving. So there is some connection between allowing fun back into life and resolving the many issues we all bring to our inner practice. For me, the engagement with the present moment was the key that opened the lock. There is an alchemical reaction that takes place in the present moment that transforms the nature of our issues and allows us to have fun again. It ends up influencing the way we see things and not taking ourselves so seriously. We can still continue to address our original reasons for entering into this process but now with a lightness of being and playfulness in our hearts.

I’ve been reading a lot of studies and articles lately that talk about the negative health effects of technology. Cell phones seem to be the recipient of most of the wrath being doled out in these reports primarily because of the dangers of texting and driving but also because of the tendency to become addicted to the behaviors that drive us to using technology in this way. Other devices such as computers and tablets also fall into the category of technology that is creating unhealthy behaviors. There are a lot of reasons why technology is ripe for blame in creating unhealthy behavior. It has opened the door to a myriad of possibilities and has created an avenue of excitement for everyone who uses it. The excitement factor is usually the element that creates the health problems associated with our use of technology.

There has been discussion over the last few years about our attraction and subsequent addiction to adrenaline and excitement. It can be argued that the media and companies recognize this addiction and gear products to creating and then satisfying this adrenaline/excitement addiction. This is a problem that is tied closely together with stress and the fight or flight response. There is a tendency in people around the world to be susceptible to actually getting stuck in the fight or flight mode for extended periods of time…sometimes even years. One of the many results of this phenomenon is the overproduction and subsequent attachment to adrenaline. Since adrenaline produces excitement, we end up looking for other ways to sustain the excitement when our supply of adrenaline wanes. Technology is ripe for stimulating and sustaining the adrenaline effect.

The important thing to remember is that stress and fight or flight is dependent solely on our relationship to events in our lives, not the events. That being understood brings us to the realization that technology has nothing to do with creating stress. We need to develop a new healthy relationship with technology that will allow us to use it constructively. I know of no better approach to accomplish this than the practice of a mindfulness-based stress reduction program. Mindfulness practice allows us to create healthy new behaviors and relationships. This has been documented in over 3000 studies and continues to be the gold standard in reducing stress and creating new healthy perspectives in our lives.

We have come to recognize that the ancients had an excellent understanding of energy far before modern science was able to measure it. It has become an enormous field of study and generally can be divided into two forms, physical and non physical. Within these two categories are multiple sub categories and descriptions about how physical and non physical energy relate to each other. As this is a blog and by definition should be kept brief I will not go into all the academic areas of energy but will keep it simple and relevant as to how we can access more energy for our lives. I think it is evident to everyone that we need energy in our bodies to function and accomplish everything. Our bodies have an energy of their own which interacts with the energy that exists all around us and throughout the universe. All the ancient traditions have a name for it and it had been known for a long time. In India it is called Prana and in Asia it is called Chi or Qi. It is somewhat akin to the electromagnetic energy of modern science but not quite, as modern science hasn’t fully grasped the true nature of it. If they did we would have far more “clean” energy at our disposal.

Since the “Universal energy” is constant and always accessible I’ll discuss how and why we can’t always seem to access it ourselves. Why can’t our bodies continuously replenish themselves with the energy that is everywhere? I think we need to look at our nervous systems as the meeting point for the physical and non physical energy. If our nervous systems are in balance then there is a natural flow between the physical and non physical energies. Eastern medicine goes into great detail about the energetic system of the body and how to keep it in alignment so that the energy continues to flow. Western medicine is only beginning to recognize this but if we look at the nervous system we can find a meeting point for the two systems. We are well aware through our studies of stress that the autonomic nervous system is getting battered about by modern stress. We know that many of us end up getting stuck in the fight or flight response for years and that the ramifications of dealing with the resulting havoc on the nervous system are related to a host of health problems. When our health suffers, our ability to access the physical and non physical energy suffers. We end up disconnecting from ourselves in order to cope with the stress and in so doing perpetuate the situation. I’ve spoken many times about how mindfulness reverses this disconnection and sets the nervous system back on it’s course to balance. When that happens the body is able to regain it’s own energy and reestablish the connection with the “non physical” energy. When that happens, we can utilize both forms of energy to reestablish the vitality and energy that is so necessary in order to truly participate in life.

In order to figure out why Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction programs are so effective we need to look at what it is and how that relates to the core of stress related issues. We have come to learn that stress plays a role in so many negative ways and finding an approach that diffuses the core cause of these issues is very important.

The biggest problem with stress is when it becomes chronic and we become stuck in the fight or flight response. At that point, we begin to deal with all the physical, mental, and emotional changes that are designed to help us in the short run but become problematic in the long run if the system doesn’t normalize and return to balance. In many ways, we can think of mindfulness-based stress reduction as the antidote to being stuck in fight or flight. In that way, it addresses the core of the problem.

The primary coping mechanism in fight or flight is our ability to disconnect from what is happening in the present moment. Considering the original purpose of fight or flight is to assure our survival in a situation of danger, possible death, or injury, the ability to disconnect from those unwanted experiences can be a welcomed strategy. Of course, with chronic stress, this disconnection stays with us over a long period of time. We disconnect from our bodies, emotions, and mind which causes many problems. The definition of mindfulness is paying attention moment by moment in a nonjudgmental way. As an antidote, it brings you back to the present moment…into your body, mind, and emotions. In so doing it breaks the stress cycle and provides the impetus to return the system to normal. MBSR Scottsdale Institute for Health and Medicine serves the entire MBSR Phoenix area needs and everywhere online.